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Being a Shitty Husband

My daughter was born January 7th, 2020, on the 4th floor at Cedars Sinai in Beverly Hills. I remember being wakened at midnight by my wife, standing in the doorframe of our bathroom, literally looking she was peeing herself.

"I think my water broke..."

"Are you sure you just don't have control over your bladder and you're peeing, babe?"


We called the emergency number Cedars gave us and of course it just kept ringing and no one picked up.

"Alright, let's just go to Cedars and see what's up."

So I grabbed all our pre-packed clothes and food we had ready and we hopped in my black 530i and I drove like an 80 year old partially blind man. So slow. So careful. Tired AF.

The doctor confirmed her water broke.

We called both of our families at 1am. They rushed over.

I was stressed. I was panicked. Just freaking out.

I started stress binge eating to try and calm myself but it just kept getting worse.

Our baby girl was finally born later that morning.

I remember getting on my laptop that same night to distract myself with emails and work.

I'm embarrassed to even admit that.

The reason I'm telling you this story was because I had one job:


And I couldn't even take care of myself.

I was only worried how I felt and how I was going to feel better.

Maybe you can relate?

A lot of us want to be great husbands, wives, boyfriends, girlfriends, parents, citizens.

But we can't even fucking take care of ourselves.

We're so self consumed and comfort seeking we can't think outside ourselves to take care of ourselves to help others.

How can you expect to help others in your life if you keep hitting the snooze?

Keep skipping workouts?

Keep eating like shit?

Not taking care of ourselves is the most selfish thing we can do.

People think it's the opposite.

But how can you serve anyone else if you don't have the discipline, energy, positive attitude, and focus that diet and exercise gives us?

REAL TALK: You know what your spouse, family member, kids, friends, are all thinking about you and how you can't stick to something.

And that's real.

The only way to change is to align the disciplines with the parent, friend, family member, spouse, etc that we want to be with our current disciplines.

Checked out parent?

Drop the booze and pick up the parenting book.

Keep fighting with your spouse?

Count your macros to gain discipline to hold yourself back from saying something hurtful and stupid.

See anyone struggling with their health in your life?

Come from a place of authenticity by practicing a healthy daily lifestyle and be the rock that inspires them to stay with it.

Ready to learn to use training, nutrition, and a healthy lifestyle to become a better person?

Enroll here: or text me at 310.883.8370

Let's make the world a better place by being the best version of ourselves.


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