This excuse grinds my gears like none other.
YOUR KIDS AREN'T YOUR F***** EXCUSE, THEY ARE YOUR REASON!!!
"My kids are my priority."
"I just paid for my kids xyz I can't do this."
This logic is pure insanity.
Yes, no shit your kids are your priority.
But how do you expect to show up for your kids when they have a parent who is:
❌Not taking care of themselves and the kids are embarrassed
❌Too uncomfortable in their own body so they're distracting themselves with tasks for their kids, constantly on the phone, constantly working, just to not face reality
❌Resulting to unhealthy vices (caffeine addicted, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs both rec and pharm)
If any of these hurt you when reading, GOOD.
The last two I WAS THE BIGGEST CULPRIT.
Checked out, caffeine addicted, binge eating like an MF.
"OMG but I do xyz for my kids and my kids look at me as a role model already! you're an asshole, Dylan."
Seriously going to victim mode that fast?
I never said you weren't a good parent.
That's your ego. That's your subconscious telling you to cover up so you can remain comfortable.
It's not about losing weight and getting healthy.
It's about the person and the role model you become in the process.
"Yeah, but I need to pay for my kids xyz."
Ok but a) you spend just as much in unhealthy habits (meals out, alcohol, undisciplined spending) and b) I'm asking you for a minimum of 1/15 of your monthly pay (assuming you make $15 an hour and work 40 hours a week) TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE TO BE A BETTER EXAMPLE FOR YOUR KIDS.
Don't do it for you.
Seriously, this isn't about you.
Do it for your kids. Because you thinking it's helping them by not doing anything, is actually THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE.
Trust me, I was WAYYY WORSE OF AN EXAMPLE FOR MY DAUGHTER IN THIS AREA SO I'M SPEAKING FROM A PLACE OF EMPATHY.
I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at your ego and your ego's habits.
I love you. Love you so much I'm willing to risk being hated JUST SO I CAN HELP.